Affair Counseling

The hidden affair changed everything.

Jenny* discovered that life differed from the one she thought she had. Shattered is the best way to describe her real life.

Devastated doesn’t even begin to describe her feelings! She spent years building this life and relationship, invested so much of herself, and relied so much on her marriage to feel safe and secure.

It feels like a tornado ripped through, destroying everything in its path – tore her relationship entirely off its foundation and her heart along with it.

Now, she’s looking around in shock, unsure how to collect the pieces of her relationship or whether she should even try.

Anger and loneliness replaced safety and security.

Jenny feels so alone, so afraid, so very angry.

She wonders, “How did this happen? What now?”

It’s so vulnerable to think about getting help, but navigating this uncharted territory alone feels impossible.

Right now, Jenny barely gets through the day.

Oh, Jenny – we know. We know.

Jenny and her husband, Todd*, started therapy, and she would tell you – it was so hard. But also, somehow, hopeful.

In therapy, Jenny had a space to feel validated in what was happening – for both of them. Having someone who knows what’s “normal” guiding them through what they were each experiencing calmed something in her, at least for the moment.

After several sessions of attending mainly to Jenny’s feelings, anxious thoughts, sleeplessness, and her brain’s genuine need to try to make sense of what had happened by asking lots of questions, they were able to move into a phase of really looking at the context and different factors that fed into Todd’s affair.

Jenny and Todd were able to do this work together and saw the restoration of trust begin to develop in their relationship along the way. After working through this phase, they looked at any problem areas in their relationship that needed addressing and anything missing that would help to include.

Therapy helped strengthen their relationship.

Now, Jenny and Todd have a healthy relationship and true partnership built on the solid ground of regained trust and deep connection, knowing they can overcome enormous challenges side by side.

They are both mindful of their relationship and attend to their individual and relationship needs in a way that works well for them.

Jenny will be the first to tell you that she hasn’t forgotten what happened, but it’s now in her rearview mirror. She feels content and connected and knows she and Todd have the skills and partnership needed to maintain a healthy relationship.

Don’t let an affair tear your relationship apart. For Jenny and Todd, counseling made a difference and can do the same for your relationship. Contact us today for more information on how we can help you.

*Jenny and Todd are not real individuals but represent a compilation of our clients.