If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure it’s the best decision for you, you are in a tough spot. And Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship — in other words, not sure about his/her commitment to the marriage (and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help) and the other is “leaning in” — that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.I can help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later. The goal is for both spouses to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.
You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys. You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-on-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places. The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
Interested in learning more about Discernment Counseling? Contact us today and set up a free consultation: 763-280-7486.
Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions.
The first session is usually 2 hours and the subsequent sessions are 1.5 or 2 hours.
Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:
- When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
- When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
- When there is danger of domestic violence
Call us today at 763-280-7486 to take the first step toward getting out of the stuck spot you and your spouse may be in.