No structure can stand forever without consistent maintenance. In the same way, relationships need care and attention. Sometimes that maintenance is a simple refresh – a coat of paint, a candid discussion about a difficult relational issue. Often, the answer is to remodel – which may involve one or both sides of the relationship working together to break apart misconceptions and hang a new understanding in place. Or, maybe a disaster has put a huge crack in your foundation. Long-standing issues may be challenging to address in the moment, but the result creates a space that both you and your partner are once again comfortable in – together.
No matter what stage of a relationship you’re in, at Renovation Counseling you’ll find balanced, non-judging, curious insight that will help you and your partner look at the issues with fresh perspective.
Renovation Counseling sees couples experiencing a wide variety of issues, including:
Communication seems like it should be straightforward. However, it’s often one of the most frustrating and difficult things to do well in a relationship. We will help you learn how to communicate more effectively, as well as offer tools to help you sustain this important skill together.
Fighting / Conflict Management
Couples frequently find themselves going from 0 to 60 with one another. Often, the patience and kindness that’s shown in front of others suddenly disappears when talking to one another. We work to help couples understand the negative patterns they find themselves caught up in that lead to escalating fights and a lack of resolution. Then we’ll work together to create new, more effective patterns of resolution.
Betrayals of Trust
Betrayal can come in many different forms. No matter what it looks like, betrayal can make a huge impact on your relationship in terms of security, commitment, and simply feeling like you’re on the same page. We can provide a safe place to process and understand these betrayals of trust and help you begin the process of trusting each other again.
Whether sexual, emotional, or both, infidelity can rock a relationship like nothing else. From working through the initial devastation of finding out about an affair, to making decisions about commitment and rebuilding your relationship, we are here to walk through this difficult journey with you. We can help couples use devastating circumstances like an affair to rebuild and redeem their relationship into something both partners never thought possible. There might be sweat equity. There might be dust as we sand away what hurts. But finding your way back home to each other can make the work of rebuilding a relationship worth the effort.
Sex and Intimacy
Sex and intimacy can be some of the most vulnerable things to talk about with each other, much less with another person. However, these topics are very important in couple relationships. Often times, there are other issues (stress, emotional disconnection, self-esteem, body issues) that are affecting this important aspect of your relationship. Renovation Counseling offers a safe space to talk about intimacy and the importance of listening to one another and understanding each other’s desires.
Couples Therapy for One
Many people find themselves wanting to improve their relationship, but find their partner unwilling or unable to join them in counseling. We have worked with several individuals on their relationships and have seen the growth and change that this can offer to couples. Together, we will work on your specific goals regarding your relationship.
Life Stage Transitions
Whenever a couple experiences a life stage transition – a new baby, a job loss, a retirement – there can be a period of adjustment that can leave both partners feeling disconnected or dissatisfied. Renovation Counseling helps couples gain empathy and understanding of one another, and we will work through logistical issues that may need to be adjusted in this new life stage.
Raising kids can be one of the most joyous and rewarding things in this life. Parenting, however, can be one of the most difficult. Everyone has their own experiences of how they were parented, and often times those experiences don’t match up in a couple’s relationship. Renovation Counseling offers an opportunity to work through any and all issues related to parenting.
Couples may find themselves feeling disconnected from one another for many reasons. Often times, it’s the busyness of life and other responsibilities. Other times, there are deeper issues that need to be addressed. We help couples begin to turn toward one another instead of away, creating opportunities to connect with each other again.